weddings and doughnuts

what is it that leads people into such generic pathways? Lame as it is, sex & the city this week left me wondering-- what is it that makes people want grow up and get married? Is it really just something we've learned from birth as what we do? I wonder what impact that leaves on the concept of gay marriage. Aside from legal bendits, what are they really hoping for? A wedding certainly doesnt guarantee happily ever after. When i see pictures of old friends of mine engaged or at batchelorette parties, I really start to wonder what all the hype is about. Everyone strives to become the same generic boring tan thin "beautiful bride". Ugh. I am disgusted. And eating doughnuts!